A quest for the heart.

The human heart is a crazy possession.  It can be a tool or a weapon.  It seeks out to love, bond, and even at times destroy based on that very love, fueling passion and jealousy.  It is a defender of its territory, and mostly...it is a defender of itself and its own feelings. The human heart houses our pride, our passion and is the giver of love.  It's a highly guarded personal commodity.  It enables and it hinders.  It fuels our passions and efforts yet offers confusing messages counteracting our carefully trained acquired common sense.

I love people watching.  I especially enjoy watching how others interact with one another, particularly those interactions in intimacy.  I'm not talking bedroom interactions.  I'm talking those special moments shared between a mother and a daughter at the airport or a young couple in love at a hotel. The most intriguing relationship exchanges come with that of older couples. There's a wisdom and a certain sense of that long lost art of commitment over a span of 20+ years that baffles me and inspires me to wake up and pay attention.

You can say it's living vicariously.  But I am at the time in my life when I've just about lost hope that today's modern couple has what it takes to surrender our pride, look toward the benefit of the relationship and take the necessary steps and sacrifices to ensure happiness and the endurance of  an everlasting love.  I've learned that it's not always age-appropriate.  Sometimes younger couples seem to get it. Sometimes middle aged couples turn around and give up at the 25 year mark. Is it an overwhelming supply of fishies in the sea throwing temptation in our faces? Is the grass on the other side actually becoming greener? We hear of so many divorced and separated couples actually finding great true romances after they take the option of the great divide.  After all...some people just lose compatibility as they grow and change...some...realize they never had it to begin with.

I want to know the secrets. I want to know what it takes in both individuals to sustain love and romance, and why does this idea seem so foreign to today's generations of lovers? After all...we are all mostly looking for the same thing. Everlasting, fulfilling love.  Why do so many of us, then wind up falling short, when we are all striving for the same thing? Why do we allow our egos, our friends, our family, temptation and distraction claim victory over that one true mission of the heart? I know I'll never have all of the answers...but I intend to uncover a great deal in the dynamic of the relationship and the human heart.